|Stoneygate Ladies will be hosting a Rugby Family Fun Day on Sunday May 4th in aid of Brain Tumor UK.As part of the day, Vix’s former team mates will be playing in a Stoneygate Vs Vixs Baa Baas match. This will be preceded by a men’s ‘Friends of Vix’ match’
And of course no bank holiday rugby match would be complete without a BBQ and Disco.
Further information can be found here: http://vixbigmatch.wordpress.com/
If you would like to camp at the event (to aid alcohol consumption) please drop an email to firstname.lastname@example.org so we can ensure we can feed and water you.
In addition, there is an ongoing auction (completing on May 4th) for signed International Rugby shirts: http://vixbigmatch.wordpress.com/auction-main/
And a small shop supporting the event: http://vixbigmatch.wordpress.com/shop/
Just a little catch up from Skye to keep us all in the vixcontinuingstuffloop.
Vicky’s always in our thoughts, but never more so than during the past month. Following the Scotland v Australia Autumn Test match we were privileged to be allowed to scatter Vicky’s ashes at Murrayfield, an honour reserved for Scotland’s International players. We were impressed by the respect of the ground staff: everybody stopped work and the stadium was in total silence while we scattered the ashes on the tryline … watch out for the greenest grass and the next Scottish try … it’ll be there, for Vix.
A week later the Glynn Harris award was presented for Vicky’s writing about her experience of cancer. Glyn Harris was an educationalist, who worked in Cumbria and died from cancer shortly after his retirement. Vicky submitted some of her writing at the beginning of 2013 and knew that her work had been chosen. It was even more poignant to be a posthumous award; we were reminded that for the valiant Vicky this was indeed a battle, something she was determined to defeat. We have a beautiful trophy to add to add to Vicky’s memorabilia and her cheque has been donated to The Brain Tumour Charity specifically for research.
The piece of Vicky’s writing read out at the presentation was ‘Factor X’ (it’s in Vix Big Musings). This made everyone smile, laugh and shed tears. A gentleman in the audience said afterwards that he’s sat through many of these award ceremonies but had never been so touched and moved as he was by Vicky’s approach to writing about her experience.
On Facebook people have been sending birthday messages and for many of us Vicky will always be forty. Thank you to the people who phoned and sent us messages to wish us a happy Vicky’s birthday. We did go to a birthday party and have candles on a cake, but these were for Jos to blow out, Vicky’s niece, who shares the same birthday, 11th December.
The next important(!) diary date is Wednesday 18th December, when it’ll be Pie Night. Vicky’s friends and colleagues at Welwyn will be getting together for a pie supper in the pub and we’ll be joining in, eating Pie on Skye. Please join us, wherever you are …
The Brain Tumour Charity has some ground-breaking projects planned, including an investigation into how a protein called DAXX enables glioblastoma cells to grow uncontrollably, paving the way for a drug that could control its effect. This is something that would excite Vicky and will give others hope in the future.
Live Love and Laugh this Christmas and best wishes for 2014.
A huge thank you to all Vicky’s friends who keep in touch with us; our extended family’s grown and we’re massively grateful for all the continuing support. It’s through all this contact that we get a sense of affirmation of the ways in which Vicky’s life impacted on others, of the inspiration people still draw from her and this in some way helps us to make sense of our loss.
A few quotes from Vicky’s friends help to illustrate this:
‘… I imagine your life is filled with little things you come across that make you both sad and happy at the drop of a hat at your sweet daughter’s memory. It’s certainly that way for me. I do miss her so but I also feel a sense of peace knowing she’s still got my back somehow. Just minutes ago I received a text … He’s at a work meeting in Atlanta and in the boardroom he’s in they have a Live, Love, Laugh art installation on the wall. Her impact on us all is so immeasurable.’
‘… I thought you might like to know that I’ve got a meeting with Macmillan on 4th November. Vicky mentioned way back during one of our rugby weekends that she thought cancer patients might like to speak to someone with legal knowledge about Powers of Attorney and Wills. She specifically said that if I had free time, she thought it would be the sort of volunteering work which would be really appreciated. I contacted Macmillan about a month ago and my offer of help seems to have gone round the houses a bit. But, I’m now meeting with one of the managers at the Support Centre at the Western General in Edinburgh. I’m not quite sure how it will all pan out, but I’m quite pleased to be putting Vicky’s suggestion into action at last. She’s definitely left a lasting influence on us all!’
’‘… We also have to plant our tree in memory of Vicky. We decided to go for a plum tree so went to RHS Wisley on Saturday and got a nice one. It was their flower show which was an added bonus. We got an Opal Plum which is also known as an Early Victoria Plum which I thought was very fitting. The kids are very keen and excited to plant it, they really like ‘helping’ in the garden. I was also going to ask if you have come across Vicky’s home-made plum chutney recipe would you be able to send it to me? We love it and it would be nice to keep the memories going. Every time we bite into a cheese and chutney sandwich or have a ploughmans we can have a bite for her too. Am sure she would have approved.’
I take a look at Facebook from time to time and notice that people are still sending Vicky messages(!) and letting her know how about the challenges they take up for her. So we know that the Vix spirit motivates many people.
‘Ok Vix so this weekend is the Glasgow half marathon and I just wanted to say thank you. I decided to sign up hoping that the motivation and drive of turning 40 would push me to dig deep and do something productive for my celebrations. For all the runs I have nearly jibbed and the days I would rather have just slobbed – thank you. You keep my legs pumping and my ass moving!’
‘Hey Vix – the new artwork was launched at work this week with staff asked to submit a photo to represent “why we come to work”. You are pride of place on the second row, far left. You still remain the reason why many of us come to work and remain our inspiration. You are now watching over us again in The Street area and now I see you every day I miss our coffees and catch-ups desperately.’
‘Took you with me to Abingdon 7′s and scored a try!!! Thanks for the well needed slap on my arse to keep me running! LLL x’
‘Ok Vix just to make you LOL from where you watch, it is confirmed that me and Sarah have registered for the Blenheim Triathlon for 2014. It was my agreement I would do it one more time when you could watch and laugh. We are doing the Female Sprint on the Sunday 8th June. Anyone who wants to start with us (I say start rather than finish knowing the rugby girls) can use Vix Tri as the code word to get similar start times.’
‘First run in over a year! 25 mins around the village, didn’t stop! Kept thinking if Vicky can do a triathlon and if Nikki can do an iron man….. I can get around the block without stopping!’
And lastly, Vicky’s keeping the pressure on Prof Chalmers, one of her heros at The Beatson:
‘The Brain Tumour Charity’ News
VixBigStuff Fundraising for The Brain Tumour Charity Continues
You’ll remember the memorial service in Barkway and the celebration of Vicky’s life … the rugby girls’ songs and antics and the fine young men of Red Diesel who saved the evening … well some members of the band Rabscallion, who should have been there, have recently put on a charity gig at the Ort Cafe, Birmingham, raising £320 for The Brain Tumour Charity.
Thank you to the band for giving their time for this very worthy charity.
‘The ceilidh we held was a success – lots of people had fun dancing in the gallery space, and we had some stalls, crafts, vegan food, cakes, and raffle. Not quite as many people as we’d hoped as it had tipped it down all evening, but we managed to raise £320.’
Robin also suggested that they’ll do another gig for The Brain Tumour Charity in the ORT space in Birmingham in December. Sounds good? It seems like the band communicates via Facebook, so please keep your eyes skinned for the Christmas event and it would be good to get together for a VixBigHoolie there that evening.
More Good News
A survey currently being circulated by The Brain Tumour Charity which invites feedback about patients’ and carers’ quality of life following a brain tumour diagnosis is supported by Vicky’s workplace.
The Brain Tumour Charity is passionate about making a difference for people affected by brain tumours. They want to understand more about what matters most to people with brain tumours about the impact that having a tumour has on their quality of life, how people make decisions about treatment and how they feel about the services they receive.
For more information about the survey follow this link.
News from one of Vicky’s colleagues, sent from a trans-Atlantic flight:
We’ve had a busy summer and I’ve kept up the triathlon training – I’ve found a real love for open water swimming, it’s such a shame it’s about to get too cold to swim in the place I’ve been swimming – there is something about being in such an open space, early in the morning with a few other (slightly crazy!) people. I really have grown to love it. I’ve entered us into Blenheim Triathlon next year so two of us with be doing it. We’ve had a great summer out cycling together, but I really need to up my running – I did manage to do a 5K run this morning with my sister before getting on the plane but I need to keep it up. All this training, new-found love for open water swimming comes
down to your daughter and her not giving me any reason to not enter Blenheim this year – it’s something I will always be truly thankful for. It has meant I’ve met some great new friends and I’ve tried out new things in life.
Life is a lot quieter without Vix at work, when I walk round the office I no longer get stopped and asked if I fancy doing a half-marathon at the weekend, or some other event which in my mind requires
significant training … or maybe it’s just will-power, determination that you actually need? Vicky certainly had that :-) I do think about Vix a lot, I obviously miss her but these thoughts always me with a smile – great memories.
Ceilidh with the Junk Shop Ceilidh Band
Thursday 12th Sept, 7.30pm £5
After the success of the Christmas Ceilidh, the Junk Shop Ceilidh Band return to Ort for a special Ceilidh raising money for The Brain Tumor Charity with a raffle, BBQ in the courtyard and Craft Stalls.
Their ship, MV Deutschland, decorated in art deco style, carrying some 500 passengers, with a passenger to staff ratio of 2:1 contrasts bewilderingly with our homely little corner of Skye. They’d been to the Castle Gardens in the morning and came to us after their lunch. They must’ve heard that our home baking is good, or maybe they were wondering what a crofter wears under his kilt?
For a couple of hours they explored the croft with Alasdair and the garden with Ann, learned about the origin of crofting, saw how we do it these days, and heard about how people have lived here over the past few thousand years.
These cruisers got waitress service and drank their tea from the best china we could muster and were enchanted. They were served cakes from the best local kitchens. They sat happily in our back yard, roughing it and loving it. They carried away little locally made gifts for their friends, wrapped in cellophane and prettily tied with tartan ribbon.
We enjoyed showing them around and will happily host similar groups again. We’re very grateful to friends and neighbours who helped to raise another £350 for The Brain Tumour Charity.